Love is a beautiful thing but when it loses its value in one partner, the chemistry between you two tends to irritate each other. You see each other as not compactible and in worst cases no affection at all. Breaking up with someone you love is not an easy task and in most cases some partners tend to lose themselves and depression takes over after breakup.
I have outlined seven red flags to look out for in your relationship so it doesn’t fall flat before you know it. If your partner starts showing these signs, its possible they have thoughts of breaking up with you. You need to fight to save it or let go.
1. They become too serious and critical
They may start to find fault in almost everything you do or say. Every action you take becomes nuisance and makes them feel like “jeez what have i brought to myself” you are such a bug that needs to be gotten rid of.
They may pick up augment with you intentionally or unintentionally. I say this because they may have found someone and wants to break up with you or they may just be naturally fade up with you not necessary because they have found someone but perhaps certain habits from the other partner is not in sync with theirs.
2. Communication becomes less
It all starts like this. If you used to communicate 30 min a day or 1 to 2 hours a day intermittent, it reduces to half that time because the chemicals that brought excitement whenever they talk to you is now less active.
They are now very okay even if they don’t talk to you for a whole day. They see spending time with you on phone or in conversation a total waste of time.
They may not return your calls or call you like they used to. they may not text or mail you like they used to. Some even intentionally use this strategy to slowly end their relationship, slowly and slowly it dies off.
It might not necessarily be that he has found someone, but perhaps a change in attitude in the other partner, when this happen, he naturally doesn’t feel attached as he used to.
3. You don’t matter to them anymore
Sadly you start getting to the bottom of their priority list. Why must they devote their attention when they got other important things to attend to? You don’t matter to them anymore, they don’t care what you do, where you go, how you faring, and other stuffs. He would rather want to spend time watching tv than to be with you because he doesn’t feel the vibe anymore..
4. They threaten to leave you
At a point like this even a cough may be enough to break up with you because they are anxiously looking for the least fault to be their standpoint to break up. Every minute comes with its warning of breakup. Once that thought or feeling comes in, i advise you take extreme caution as your relationship is on the verge of collapse. At this point, they are looking for the least issue to make it big enough to leave you
5. They don’t make plans with you
At first they discus everything with you, from marriage plans, making babies, putting up projects together and the likes. They now see it not important and don’t want to talk about them with you. They don’t see you in the plans they dream of. They wouldn’t want to deceive themselves making plans of settling down with you or making you their life companion hence they cutting that ties with you. Don’t wait for the light to get to red, tackle it while its yellow
6. They become secretive
They tends to hide literally everything from you. They tend to have a personal life aside what They have built with you. They change their phone lock, changes where They place their diary, mutes your social media account so you don’t see their status or story. They become very alert with their personal stuffs and wouldn’t want it in the wrong hands(you). They walk out when they get a phone call, speaks undertone, always puts their phone on silent or vibration. You would never hear their phone ring for you to even see who’s calling in the first place. Its a sign and you don’t need an angel to reveal it to you.
7. They don’t feel comfortable around you
They feel comfortable with their friends and those who now matter to them. They would always find excuse why they cant be with you when you need them. You cant complain much because at this point, the more you show concern why they should be with you, the further you worsen the little desire they would have wished to be with you. You now become an obstacle and they wouldn’t want you close to them.
Its not easy breaking up with someone and getting over a break up. If you see any of these signs in your partner, be quick enough to maturely have an honest talk with them. Try your best to identify and iron properly any attitude that may have gotten things this way, i would also want you access yourself very well, what were the unique traits that brought you two together? what where the petty stuffs you used to do that excited him/her? what are you not doing now? what are you missing? what are you denying him/her of?
Do a thorough assessment of yourselves and save your relationship from tearing apart but if its really necessary that you guys break up because at a point you felt you were both deceiving each other and you now want to be real but found out its not working, the best way to break up with them is to go ahead and peacefully talk your differences with your partner and what you think is not working and then possibly break up without hurting them in a nice way whilst you still remain good friends. Its better that way. Yeah!
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